Pass Me By/TGIF

Scene - Present Day
Friday....
Happy Friday, and Happy Halloween weekend to those of you who enjoy that sort of thing. Sunday is daylight savings time again and the world is flying by faster than the speed of sound. Wondering what's in store for you next. The quest for love, success and all pursuits in between. What will your tapestry reveal when your day is done, as you await the where to, next. Trying to have a life in a world that may not be for you in this moment. Fighting to have love with someone who does not want to have harmony with you. Sometimes it's not them, but it could be their family or friends who are trying to prevent bliss. Realizing that you may have to stand alone, and let a worthy life pass you by.

No one wants to be there with you in the struggle, yet everyone wants to be there to reap the rewards. Though they will never come right out and say this you. Is it our insecurities that force attachments to the winning circle. Is life better when you have strength in numbers? Many questions arise, and truthfully you know who holds the answers. You have the answers, but are you really trying to see the 'real' reality. Some will tell others their side of the story, because they know who will agree with them, the ones who will not agree, ultimately is kept out of the loop. Is a real friend, someone who wont tell you the truth? Juggling work, friendship, relationships, religion and politics. Something in the big picture gets missed, and yes someone or something gets passed by.

The goal is to make a difference, to know that settling is not the life that you signed up for. To push the envelope even when you know your name may not be called. Its your right to challenge the foundation of the structure of the road traveled. If you get there once can you get there again? Will you be wiser this time around, or the next. Why does love feel so good, with the one who hurts you so bad, and makes you sad? A progressive state is easily achieved with the one who loves and wants you, but of course you could care less about them, so you pass them by, and end up alone, while the one you wanted has a life with someone else. I digress.

I can say today, that's it's okay for me to go it alone, for me to work hard to achieve my personal goals, to fully believe that what I truly want may pass me by, and the design on my life might bring happiness to others instead of me. Will that be enough for me to see joy in my children's eyes? To selfishly give of myself to a world that works against me and my kind. We as Americans on a daily basis take for granted our freedoms and can be so cavalier about the next man. To have thoughts and opinions that may be about bigotry,injustice or racism, did someone take any of that into consideration, or did life pass them by.

If you had it to do all over again, would you? What would you come back as? If you had one more day to make a bad decision right, if you could bring a loved one back to correct a wrong. Every now and then you get a second chance ... do you stop and recognize the journey of the 'now' or would you let the moment pass you by?

What are you doing with your life?

I'm Just Saying..

One of Sarah Palin's worst nightmares besides Momma O' is the Levi Johnston. Johnston is going to bare EVERYTHING that Palin's daughter got to see and feel.
Word has it he's going to let it all hang out. Ironically he will be posing for PLAYGIRL magazine November 18Th, which just so happens to be the day that Palin sits down for her much anticipated interview on Momma O's couch.

Angelina Jolie has a lot of xplain'n to do. In a new tell-all biography of Angelina Jolie, author Andrew Morton says that as a 16-year-old, Angelina bedded her mother’s boyfriend. According to the book, Jolie’s mother, Marcheline Bertrand, ended her relationship with the man when she found out. Whoa...now it all makes sense the strained family relationship, but I'd STILL do her. She's HOTT!!

Real Housewives of Atlanta singer Kandi Burruss is pregnant with her ex-boyfriend the late A.J. Jewell's baby. As if we didn't have enough bastards in the world. Its hard for me to wrap my brain around her pregnancy, Kandi ended her relationship with A.J. at least two months ago, and they film their episodes in advance, so this kinda feels like a media/rating hype. If it's true good luck Kandi, the world is hard enough when you don't come from a broken home

Back in the day Jamie Foxx said that when Jennifer Lopez was a dancer on FOX's "In Living Color" he affectionately addressed her as 'Hey Ho' so apparently he might have been on to something. Lawyers for Jennifer Lopez have sent a cease-and-desist letter to her first husband Ojani Noa to shut down production of “How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J-lo and and Ojani Noa Story,” a mockumentary-style movie. In the book/film he tells the story of Jennifer getting 'it' in with others during their marriage, and how he now can't get a job. If there's no truth to the book, what is Lopez afraid of. XXXXXactly!!

Cheating Matthew Knowles is up to his old payola tricks again, forever threatened that someone else might have a chance at radio other than his famous daughter. Word on the streets is saying old geezer Knowles is paying west coast radio stations not to play former member LeToya Luckett's song 'Regret'. Matthew pay attention, you really don't have anything to worry about, because of your wicked ways, Capitol records have already dropped Luckett from there roster, which is a shame, but welcome to HOLLYWOOD, it ain't for everybody.

Former NBA First Round Pick And Celtic Antoine Walker Wasted Away $110 Million… He’s “Flat Line” Broke!!! Walker, former NBA player, is over $4 million in the hole and facing charges for felony check fraud. I always say if you don't know how to budget $500 hundred dollar's, you won't be able to budget $110 million dollars....and we'll you get what I'm saying.

U2 will play a free concert in Berlin to help the city celebrate 20 years since the fall of the Berlin Wall. Aren't you glad that you're an American? Where we take ALL of our privileges for granted.

Usher Raymond and Tameka d-i-v-o-r-c-e is FINALLY finalized, now can we move on to things that we actually do care about like Raymond's music.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Command Performance

This performance is true present day soul. John Legend is his own ways channels a modern day Otis Redding. Current day performers rarely can bring it LIVE. I appreciate this performance of "Save Room" because it sends a message that true music with lyrics is alive and well. It's a timeless piece from the musicians to the on point background singers to John himself delivery the goods. I LOVE IT!!!

I'm Just Saying..

Michael Jackson's documentary "THIS IS IT" film opens TODAY. I can already see the headlines, critics will try to rip his soul to shreds. At the end of the day, I say what I've always said about the "King Of Pop" no matter what their will NEVER BE ANOTHER - EVER!! A List Stars such as Adam Lambert, Katy Perry, Will Smith, Jennifer Lopez, Paula Abdul, Neil Patrick Harris, Ashley Tisdale, David Cook and Jennifer Love Hewitt were just a few among the red carpet of the star-studded event.

Poor Bambi according to(America)Taylor Swift performed her new single "Jump Then Fall" last night on Dancing With The Stars. I like her enough, but the Kanye West saga needs to end. The girl is going to sell records, regardless. When hasn't America eaten up the blonde white girl singer era? I'll still take carrie Underwood over her any day.

When Hollywood stops calling. How do you get publicity, well for "Clueless" star Brittany Murphy you put in a call to 911 saying that you heard gunshots outside your window. C'mon Brittany gunshots? Hmmm well at the end of the day is that really how you want your name to be in the media? Odd right?

Singer Monica Arnold "I'm Still Standing" show debut on BET yesterday. Amazingly it's not buffoonery. It's quality programming. Could their be hope for BET after all?

Tennis star Andre Agassi is releasing his "OPEN" autobiography November 9th. He will discuss his addiciton to crystal meth, and his failed marriage to actress Brooke Shields. Hopefully he will speak on racism in the Tennis industry, and maybe he will give some bedroom stories too. Believe it or not, he use to date Pop Legend Barbara Streisand....DIRT right? I'm just saying..

Rapper/Producer Missy Elliot is FINALLY returning to the game with her new CD entitled "BLOCK PARTY". Her first single is called "Put It On Ya" featuring Pharrell and Teyana Taylor. Missy the game has been missing you. Let's hope that "BLOCK PARTY" is worth the wait. She recently produced a song on Monica's upcoming CD release call "BETCHA" and that song is FIYAHH....asses will be shaking in clubs from coast to coast.

Singer Chris Brown made his return to stage last night in NYC, and the fans welcomed him with other arms. Wearing skin tight pants with NO underwear probably didn't hurt either,maybe he got that idea from his EX. Chris sell it...It's ALL entertainment right?

Child molester singer R. Kelly is coming to a town near you. Will you be in attendance? Junior High and High Schools beware...step up your security game. I'm Just Saying..

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying..

Comedian LeToya Jackson said she speaks to late brother Michael Jackson from the grave. See why I call her a comedienne. She's pure COMEDY!!

Academy Award Winning actress Elizabeth Taylor, has given the seal of approval for the upcoming Michael Jackson movie "This Is It". She says "It's the most briliiant piece of filmaking that she's ever seen" She continued with "I wept from pure joy at his God given gift. There will never, ever be the likes of him again." Wonder what she thinks of the rest of the circus clan known as the Jacksons, excluding the 'normal' Jackson, Janet!

Lakers Basketball star Lamar Odom is 'STILL' married and pre-nup is SIGNED on the dotted line. Smart man. I aint saying she's a gold digger...wait a minute YES I AM!!

Robert DeNiro and Ben Stiller were spotted in Los Angeles shooting scenes for the sequel to Meet The Fockers entitled Little Fockers. The plot of the movie is basically the Byrnes family and Focker family gearing up for the arrival of a baby. The first two movies were classic, I'm kinda feeling like this 'brand' has run it's course.

Supermodel Kate Moss has a new fragrance called 'VINTAGE' it's her fourth fragrance on the market. No word on what it smells like, but the ad is FEVER!!!

When the moon and stars align themselves good things happen like LADY GAG not being qualified for the Grammy's Best New Artist category. Remember back in the old days when Grammys were given for TALENT!!

Trainwrecks Paula Abdul and Lindsay Lohan were spotted at the same L.A. event Monday night. Hopefully these two lost celebs can find solace in each other, they both know first hand, what it feels like when HOLLYWOOD turns it's back on you, and they know where to find the best drugs to coat their pain. Seriously they should drive each other to rehab....if not 'there will be no happy ending' and that's 'real talk'.

Former Senator cheating bad boy John Edwards, wife Elizabeth Edwards who is battling stage 4 breast cancer, said she no longer feels that God will cure her, but hopes for strength to endure. Such a brave lady, and what a whack character her husband has illustrated.

Brad Pitt crashed his motorcyle trying to escape paparazzi. Remember what happened to Princess Diana of Whales. Fortunately he wasn't hurt. At what point will the paparazzi draw the line?

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying..

Director Spike Lee has pissed off writer/producer Tyler Perry. Lee claims that Perry's projects are coonery and buffoonery. When I see Perry's shows on television like "Meet The Browns" and "House of Payne" I happen to agree with Lee. It's like I'm watching a modern version of amos and andy or seeing Buckwheat or Aunt Jemima. On the flip side of the coin, what I can appreciate about Perry's movie projects, he gives jobs to credible actors who wouldn't normally get work in Hollywood. Maybe he and Lee and come together and make a movie. Perry could cast the wannabes' and Lee can cast the jigaboo's.


Born Chasity Bono to Sonny and Cher Bono, has had a sex change to be a man, known now as Chaz Bono. I'm SCRATCING my head, and if I'm scratching my head, Cher must be BALD from pulling her hair completely out. It's one of those WTF moments.

Actress Rashida Jones and daughter of jazz legend Quincy Jones was seen creeping out with singer John Mayer, who truly has been 'inside' of a lot of Hollywood starlets. I'm NOT mad at him for that one bit. Rashida seems to be following in her father's footsteps, because Quincy was married three times ALL white women. I could tell you other stories about Poppa Jones, but I wont this time around:)

Former Los Angeles Laker Magic Johnson and former Detroit Piston star Isiah Thomas, are at it AGAIN, but this time it's not sexual,,,,,oops. Back in the day when Johnson went public about his HIV status, Thomas always alluded to the fact that Johnson didn't contract the virus from a woman. NO KIDDING!!! Thomas, tell us something that we DON'T know. You can read all about the many stories in Johnson's and Larry Bird's upcoming biography. Should be some good juicy stuff. I wonder if Johnny Gill or Jermaine Stewart names are mentioned in the book. Hmmmm


Breezy Chris Brown is wrapping up songs for his upcoming project called 'Graffiti'. As I've mentioned before the first single is called "I'll transform You' with Swizz Beats and Lil Wayne, seems to be catching on at radio. Much anticipation is geared for the 'Graffiti' release. A lot of people still have their opinions on what went down between breezy and RiRi, now just between the sheets, but what happened in the streets. I for one, am rooting for forgiveness for Breezy. RiRi has forgiven him AND gave him another taste of her flower, so maybe America should mind theirs. I'm JUST sayin..

This kinda feels a lot like the movie 'Final Destination'....Jeffry Picower was found dead at the bottom of his swimming pool at his Florida home today. Picower was said to have raked in an estimated $7 Billion dollars (That's a lot of $$$) from the Bernie Madoff Ponzi scheme that send Madoff to jail for the rest of his life. Though he has denied any wrong doing or knowledge of the ponzi scheme – he had been sued in an effort to recoup lost funds. Good luck with that.

Singer Morrissey collaspes on stage this pass weekend. He was having difficulty breathing. That's not a good look Morrisey, feel better soon.

SNL is working hard to get Kanye West as a surprise guest when Taylor Swift hosts the show in November. C'mon now it's NOT that deep. West didn't kill anyone, it's always a double standard when african americans do something. Geez, yes he was ignorant for walking on stage....WE GET IT!!! Move on damn. Wasn't it very interesting when Justin Timberlake exposed Janet's nipple at the Superbowl, all of sudden SHE was the fall guy....XXXXXXXXXXXXXXACTLY!! Speaking of Jackson, she was seen with BEP front man Wil.I.Am this weekend, guess she's traded in the frog for a turtle. Hopefully the new music will be HOT!!

At the box office news 'Paranormal Activity' kicked 'Saw VI' in the nutts this weekend. Maybe this will put the nail in the coffin on the franchise.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Official First Family Portrait!!

The Obama's official White House family portrait! How about that for SWAGGER!!

Staying In Your Lane/TGIF

Scene - Present Day
Friday....

In the midst of trying to figure out our life and the valuable players in it. Day to day struggles will always find someone trying to break your stride and the joy that you have in your life. Your journey is uniquely your own, you don't have to explain it to anyone. If chasing your dreams isn't infringing on another's livelihood. I say go for it. When you share your desires with others, are they actively listening or wishing they were someplace else. Those are the signs that you need to pay close attention to.

Say you gave your all to a love affair, that was doomed from the start, but you decided to try it just one more time, and of course that took you out of your lane and comfort zone, and you got bit AGAIN!! That so called friend that you confided in, who said you could do better, ended up testing the waters that you once swam in, well that's on you, because you didn't honor your lane, and your truth. You could deal with a similar situation in the work place. someone might encourage you to apply for a position that they feel you have no chance in hell of getting, surprise, surprise you get it, now you're their boss or it was a position that they really wanted .... EXACTLY!!

Knowing your place is not the easiest thing to understand. What's meant for you, will eventually be for you. The interim can be the hardest part of all. Waiting and the obstacles in between is always the most stressful. Due process is the ultimate test. Yes we are tested daily. The quick prayers that some pray, doesn't get you the quick result, and possibly it doesn't get heard. Time, tenderness and being steadfast is what the good book teaches. The school of hard knocks exist too, if that's the type of student you want to be. Long story short, it has more drawbacks than gains.

Everyone has a role in which they play in life. Knowing your role and place is a good start, most will bump into walls trying to figure it out. Trust me if you bump your head enough times, the bruises will teach you how to find an easier way, and a much softer landing. Take for instance the youngest child, has his role, generally of being the baby, spoiled and getting his/her way, the middle child usually will be the over achiever fighting just to be seen and heard, while the oldest child takes the lead and has the responsibility, while setting the example for siblings to follow.

Staying in your lane, means you understand your place, your role, your way and ultimately your destiny. Life is richly rewarded to those who stay present and believe in the impossible. I'll even say dare to reach for the impossible. The mere fact of not knowing what the impossible 'is' gives you all the more reason to want things that life sometimes say you shouldn't have. Staying in your lane, allows you to say I 'can' have this. Knowing the players that you cast in your life and their role is essential. Remember for every role and part, villains exists too. The biggest lesson is to know what your role is, and how to play it, remember some will push you, when they least expect it, don't be afraid to come out of pocket, to make it just a little more interesting.

What are you doing with your life?

I'm Just Saying..

Levi's is bringing it gangsta style with their new adverstisement. This is my kind of ad. Very soft porn, but it keeps both heads concentrating on what's important. Big ups to you Levi's. I'd love to get inside them jeans. You got MY attention!!

This continues to boggle my mind, attention to all the gays in Hollywood, if you don't want your dirt in the streets, keep it between the sheets. I don't care what you do, just don't deny it when you get caught doing it. Having your PR person try to spin a story positive gets old...REAL old. I'm Just Saying...

If Sex and The City can turn their series into a movie, shouldn't the same thing happen for the cast of GIRLFRIENDS? Doesn't that sound like a great idea? It could be the new version of 'Waiting To Exhale' . The cast deserves that? Creator Mara Brock Akil are you paying attention? GET YA MONEY!!

Rapper MA$E if finally free from POOFY, who agreed to let him out of his contract. In my mind, it's too little too late.

John Travolta blackmail/extortion case went to court and was declared a mistrial. Haven't the man and his family suffered enough with the loss of his child? After the verdict this is what Travolta had to say: "We are disappointed to hear about the alleged juror misconduct since we know that the Bahamian government, the court, the other jurors and John Travolta as the victim want to have this matter adjudicated through the judicial system. Mr. Travolta has and will continue to cooperate with the Bahamian authorities in the prosecution of the defendants for extortion."

Wasn't it just yesterday when Rosie O'Donnell was a host of ABC's The View, where she talked sheeeit about EVERYONE!! Flash forward a few years later, she can't get arrested in HOLLYWOOD, and now the last straw is the love of her life Kelli Carpenter has reportedly moved out of their house and into a condo of her own. Guess everything ISN'T coming up Rosie for some.

Great news for fans of FOX's new hit show GLEE. The one AND only Madonna has given the show her entire catalog to cover. She is one sharp businesswoman, she knows how to STAY relevant even at 51. Work it Maddy, I'm not mad about it.

American Psycho star Christian Bale said that Tom Cruise was his inspiration to bringing his character to life. I wonder what else does Tom Cruise inspire him to do. Hmmm I'm just saying...

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Command Performance

It's great to see such raw talent in the entertainment world today. We've gotten accustomed to gimmicks and auto tune. Michael Buble kicks it ole skool paying homage to the greats in this rendition of Billy Paul's 'Me and Mrs Jones'. The interpretation is sleek, stylish and on point. A leader for the new school of song to follow. I'm certainly glad some artists still take their craft seriously. Take your bow Mr. Buble you've earned it.

I'm Just Saying..

Def Jam artist (YAWN) Rihanna debut her new single "Russian Roulette" premiered at 1123am on radio stations across the country as a tie-in to her November 23rd CD Release date. Luckily for RiRi she has incredible songwriting/producer Ne-Yo on board.

Bootleg and Broke down Bobby Brown seems to be upset that his ex-wife made a comeback. Now the fat ass is releasing a tell all. I'm guessing about 150 copies will be sold. Get a job brick, you ex-wife carried your trifling arse for 14 years, time to 'try it on your own' btw rents are usually due on the 1st of the month.

Rapper JaRule and Ashanti reunited last week at the Hip Hop Honors, both careers are in the toilet, maybe they should reunite, and be the new version of Rene' and Angela'. Ashanti she can't sing and dance. My philosophy is if you can't dance you damn sure can phuck, so maybe that explains why Rapper Nelly left her.

Actress Megan Fox covers the September / October 2009 issue of Wonderland magazine where she helps the mag celebrate it’s 4th anniversary issue. Fox continues to try to chase Angelina Jolie's thunder....good luck with boo.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying..

At 46 years old Pop Legend Whitney Houston is a certified BANGER. Through her battles with her demons and the dissolval of her marriage. She's a true testament to GOD's work. To look at her, it's like she was never challenged by anything in her life. Such a regal lady.....Rihanna, Beyonce,Celine, Lady GAG, Lindsay Lohan, Britney, Mariah, yall better take notice.

Lindsay Lohan continues to spiral downward. I keep having Anna Nicole flashbacks. Why aren't her parents trying to save their daughter? The girl is SCREAMING for help.

American Idol runner-up Adam Lambert claims to like women who throw their bras on stage....WHY? Does he want to wear them? LMAO here's his comment to Details Magazine on the subject: “A lot of times I’ll pick up a bra and play with it during a song,” he says. “It’s a way to connect. It’s like, ‘I threw my bra up onstage and you’re spinning it around. Cool. Yay.’”

Chris Brown’s new single “I Can Transform Ya” feat. Swizz Beatz & Lil’ Wayne. The song is HOT. I'm curious about how Swizz and Weezy feel about Rihanna throwing their boy in front of the bus. I also wonder if they're worried about about possible backlash with them for participating in the song with Breezy. Just my thoughts.

Superstar Janet Jackson will perform a full set on December 6th in London’s O2 arena for the Capital FM Jingle Ball. It will be Janet’s first full set performance since canceling her last tour for the Discipline album last year. Now that Michael is gone, Janet is her siblings only meal ticket...and that's a lot to groceries to be supplied, especially to Jermaine and Toya.

Is anyone feeling Alicia Keys new single "Doesn't Mean Anything"? I'm not on board yet. Wonder what Swizz Beats ex-wifey Mashonda thinks of the song. Do I smell BEATDOWN?!?!

Little hot kooch Miley Cyrus is joining the cast of Sex and The City along with Penelope Cruz....bunch of hot sex kittens...MEOW!!

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying..

Superstar entertainer Beyonce' Knowles is teaming up with Lady GAG to make a video for Knowles next single. This is the whackest move ever on Knowles part. Why would she cheapened her brand and give that much attention to a flash in the pan. This is the second time Seabiscuit has teamed with a caucausian-ish, the other artist was Shakira, and it backfired, so let's see what happens this time. We'll be watching.

Mike Tyson interviewed with Momma O' last week. The interview was very revealing, he spoke on Robin Givens lying on him to Barbara Walters, Givens claimed that Tyson was abusive and she feared for her life. Tyson said watching Givens lie about him on national television, made him want to punch her. He also spoke about not formally apologizes to Evander Holyfield for nibbling on his ear, as you know Momma O' can make wishes come true, a few days later the talk show queen had both boxing legends on her sofa sitting side by side...WHOA..now that's what I call a KNOCKOUT!!

T-Boz and Chili of TLC, performed in Las Vegas this past weekend for Justin Timberlake's benefit concert. Without Lisa Left-Eye Lopes this group needs to hang it up. Left-Eye was the spark, and her antics kept things interesting.

Pop Legend Whitney Houston performed on Britain's X-FACTOR looking AMAZING, the voice was strained, but better than her GMA performance. She had a slight wardrobe malfunction, but kept it moving. We'll see how her concert tour goes next year. All I got to say is REHEARSE REHEARSE REHEARSE, because a bad performance get the quickest reviews.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Connecting/TGIF

Hello Everyone, Happy Friday..

This week, I'm going to keep the subject matter light:) With less than three months left to this year. It's easy to reflect on original goals, and people who have impacted your year thus far. Have you made any connections and strides to get closer to the things that bring you joy?

This week was great for me, I reconnected with a old friend from my past. Those are the days when you just got to love tools like facebook, myspace, twitter,texting etc.., Don't be afraid to try the news ways of communication. When fear keeps you from trying new things and new mediums, is basically when the aging process starts. Like it or not the world waits for no one. I've stated that on more than on occasion.

Losing touch with someone happens for a lot of reasons, I for one will never be conditioned to the thought of, a cell phone storing all of my phone numbers and contacts. I got sucker punched with that madness before. The old school way of writing numbers and contact information down or memorizing is a great tool for the brain, as it's a muscle that must stay fine tuned. We get lazy and conditioned to the convenience of it all.

Some people make connections through work or a social event. Love comes into play too, and the heart is selfish because it wants what it wants, sometimes what it wants isn't always what it needs, but that's another conversation:) How many times have you dated someone that you worked with? all of us at some point have made that crazy mistake, and for some it wasn't a mistake, that connection can lead to marriage or long term dating. We're all trying to get to the next level. The life of a mover shaker is never easy. Things like responsibility and drive will have you rushing to the get to the what's 'next' portion of your life.

Thanksgiving is right around the corner, what a better way to reconnect with you friends and family contacts. Simple get together's can be done on a budget, especially if everyone chips in to do their part. The recession doesn't seem to be letting up, now more than ever, its all about the village. Executing things into fruition, can save you time, money, and if done correctly, the rewards are endless.

What are you doing with your life?

I'm Just Saying..

Crazy Sexy Britney Spears scores another #1 record called '3'. She's the first artist in three years to debut at the coveted position. Wasn't it just yesterday she was running down the street, and chopping her blonde locks off, this was before K-Fed got custody of the kids. Congrats ma, you seem to be getting it back together, well kinda, I still feel that she's a little crazy, but SEXY!!

Singer Leona Lewis was bashed in the face by some crazed fan at her Book signing. Lewis handled it with grace, maybe she was terrified, if it were me, I would've beat that fan's azz, and then fired all of my security. Geez..Isn't she paying them to protect her? 'I'M JUST SAYING'

Speaking of security guards, you know that your crew is on top of their game, if it takes your family two days to get through to your people to let you know that your 75year mother had heart surgery. Well that's how it went down for Oscar winning actress Julia Roberts. Damn Julia it's your mother. Doesn't someone have your cell phone number. Something doesn't' seem quite right about that story.

Non talent lip sync singer Cassie put her --sexual boy toy POOFY on blast. She tweeted "why do people who love insist on lying to you? The truth will set you free" Well Cassie, leading a double,triple,quadruple life makes it hard to stay honest, the gangsta way to stay afloat is to lie. You're new to the fold, think how his staple mate Kim Porter must feel or Andre Harrell for that matter. POOFY is a big ole mess. There I said it!! Wendy Williams would concur:)

Ever notice how George Clooney has a cute girlfriend for a minute, then she disappears, hmmm don't you find that interesting? and has never been married at his age.

In gold digger news...three women have let creepy frog looking Lil Wayne climb inside of them. EWWWW there's NOT enough money in the world....well that's just me, clearly some people have no conscious...AND the women are cute!!

Rapper Souja Boy must be too busy taking pictures of his crotch to pay his rent on a regular basis. NOT good kid, you got to pay what you owe or you will get evicted!!

VHI Hip Hop Honors show was a well put together, again whitie is showing African Americans(BET) how to put together a well presented show.

30 Rock producer and actress Tina Fey may be one of the most popular girls around these days, but as she reminisced to David Letterman Wednesday, she was a virgin until she met her husband when she was 24. Fey claimed that she couldn't give it away.

I've made a executive decision to NEVER speak of the KKK (Kardarshian) sisters NOR that hot mess of Jon and Kate, because they're REALLY not worth the ink. So if you're looking for any info on them in the future...look elsewhere!! All of em gutter trash.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Command Performance

It takes a exceptional artist to cover another artista song. The idea is to bring something just as good if not better to the rendition. What's makes this performance even more incredible by Maxwell is that he's covering a Kate Bush song, and it's pitch perfect, making it extraordinary because he's a male. I love this performance it's a exquisite tribute to women. How appropriate of him for his legion of female follower's.

I'm Just Saying...

I'm going to let you guys in a little secret. If you ever watch The Wendy Williams show. Always pay close attention to her facial expressions. Stars who are afraid to appear on her show, have something to hide:)
She's trying to play it clean lately, but this lady knows a LOT of dirt. She's gut bucket in it's finest form. She trying to keep it clean, but she's gangsta, which is how she got her show to begin with, guess America loves a little mess.

Wonder is Star Jones ever regret how she got to BIG for her panties on The View? Take it from me a steady paycheck is always wassup! Star if you love to eat, just choose the straight sausage choice and not the Al Reynolds sausage choice. Live and learn.

America, why are we still talkig about Anna Nicole Smith? When she was alive no one cared, and considered her a D-List bimboo. Truthfully what she did in her life, is not my concern. If I were phucking a 97 year old, I want to get paid too!! Why are we always so consumed with other's every move? ENOUGH ALREADY, let the poor girl R.I.P.

Poofy recently said that he felt that Pop Superstar Whitney Houston threw ex-hubby phatt azz Bobby Brown under the bus in her Momma O' interview. Lawd help us all!! Poofy you're in NO position to talk about ANYONE being shady, wonder what Andre' Harrell, Shyne, Biggie, Faith Evans, Aubrey O'Day, Mase, Fonzworth Bentley,Day 26, Loon and Chante' Moore all have to say about your sneaky low rent azz!! There's many others too.

Singer Amy Winehouse felt having a small chest was a NO NO NO, so ole girl had breast surgery enhancement. Drunk or sober, that voice is amazing, now when she performs not only are you in for a treat vocally, but you get two new jugs to look at. YUM YUM

Isn't it interesting Dr. Phil isn't a licensed doctor or therapist!! He thinks he knows every damn thing. Two females have come forward one claimed that Dr. Phil grabbed her breast while the other said he forced her to look at another man's penis. Wonder what Momma O' has to say on this subject. Stay tuned...Dr. Phil you're a ole dirty birdie.

Superstar Madonna appears on the cover of ROLLING STONE, and she addresses a few things that she likes..one being Lady GAG(whom I don't get nor care to): “I see myself in Lady Gaga. When I saw her, she didnt have a lot of money for her production. she's got holes in her fishnets, and there's mistakes everywhere. It was kind of a mess, but I can see that she has that IT Factor. It's nice to see that at a raw stage"
On Justin Timberlake : "Justin is a brilliant songwriter. I mean, "What Goes Around…..Comes Around?" Brilliant. I thought it would be a challenge to work with him. He's sort of a Cary Grant. I love him. I love working with him."
On the first 3 concerts she saw : "My first show was David Bowie. My second show was Elton John. And my third was Bob Marley! Not bad, right?"

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying..

Tyra Banks is still one of hottest chicks in the game. Say what you want, but Ms. Banks is cashing checks, and taking no prisoners. She is back to her model weight, that's wassup. Hopefully one day she and Naomi Campbell will grace a cover together.

So it turns out that actors Matt Damon and Ben Affleck are cousins, well that puts that rumor to rest about them being lovers. Well unless they're hillbillies, because as we all know, with hillbillies no rules apply:) I'm Just Sayin...

King of Pop Michael Jackson was nominated for five American Music Awards, I have a sneaky suspicion that bambi(Taylor Swift) will get the sympathy vote. I'm rooting for him to win in EVERY category. I think he has a great chance of a clean sweep. Dick Clark said that out of every entertainer, that he ever worked with Michael Jackson was the most talented of them ALL. So HATERS hate on, but you can deny his GENIUS. Will you be watching? I WILL!!!

Train wreck hot kooch Rihanna will a new CD out November 23rd. YAWN.....I'm NOT excited, nor impressed. I can wait..........and wait and wait. Rihanna I'm sorry but I still don't get why you are Lady GAG clutter the radio airwaves. UGH

Academy Award winner Penelope Cruz will join the sluts of Sex and The City cast. That's a bold move for Sarah Jessica Parker to take that chance. Latina's are hot mommie's, and the exude mad sex appeal, and could possibly give Kim Cattrell's character a run for her money. Hmmm can you say CATFIGHT!! Grab the popcorn, because I'll be watching.

Speaking of Ladies, where is A.I.'s runner up Clay Aikens? XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXactly!!

Maria Shriver wife of immigrant California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger was caught on numerous occasions driving while talking on her cell phone. Isn't it so interesting how the rules DO NOT APPLY to everyone. Hence the reason that he's even allowed to be the Governor of California.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

The Plot Thickens....

In my "Im Just Saying" column, I eluded to some things that werent quite right with POOFY(Puffy) regarding rapper Shyne's release from prison. Play close attention, and see if you can put the missing pieces to the puzzle.
Here's a little back drop to the story.....in December 1999 Sean Combs accompanied by smoking hot then girlfriend Jennifer Lopez and upcoming Biggie sounding rapper Shyne were all taken into custody after a shooting a Club New York, with Shyne eventually receiving a 10 year sentence in June 2001.

POOFY's coment: “It’s a blessing that he’s coming home…I spoke to him like a couple of weeks ago and he sounded like he was in good spirits. I know he can’t wait to get home. I know he is definitely going to heat the whole scene up. He was definitely one of [many] talented young artists that I had the pleasure to work with. I’m quite sure he’s been using his time wisely and has some heat,” Diddy said in a recent Hot 97 interview.

Shyne's response comment: “I want it known that this supposed conversation is a figment of Sean Combs’ imagination. He never spoke with me, he never visited me nor would I ever accept a phone call or visit from him. The only way I would do either of those things would be if he stepped up and did the right thing for the victims of the incident.”




Any questions????

I'm Just Saying..

And the best Drama Queen award in music goes to USHER. Every time this dude has a new CD, he always has to have drama surrounding it. Guess the ------ can be a crowded place. So he dissed her mother to marry Tameka, and now he can't come to terms to sign the divorce 'Papers' so he came up with a(not) BRILLIANT idea to write a song called 'Papers' to air the dirty laundry. Not to mention that he recently called the cops on Tameka claiming she scratched his car. OMG...its like I'm at catholic school all over again. Sister Mary Margaret can you sit those two girls down and tell them to KNOCK IT OFF!!

Kanye West jumpoff Amber Rose is a lesbian, yes people. It's all fair in love and Hollywood right? Amber is riding her fifteen minutes of shame, when it's over I wonder if she'll go back to 'Exotic' her ex-girlfriend? And just how innocent is Kanye? Yeah that's another good question.

So rocker Courtney Love and Miley Cyrus are leaving Twitter...and why do we care? Both of them probably have problems with the alphabet....or maybe they couldn't figure out how to use vowels, hmmm is it A before E....XXXXXACTLY!!

Sexy ass Angelina Jolie is set to replace Charlize Theron in the new thriller 'The Tourist'. The role is part seductress, part action stunna, which screams Jolie, and less Theron. Sorry Theron maybe next time or not.

In crazy white people news rocker chick Katy Perry is dating the VMA joke Russell Brand. While MTV was dissing Kanye West for snatching Taylor Swift's acceptance speech. The biggest disservice was having that Englishman host their Awards Show, who felt it was appropriate to tell us about which way his penis was laying:(, and his outfit. His jokes were lame, and so was the show.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Wounds and Battle/TGIF

Thank God It's Friday,
See sometimes you just got to say his name and give him the glory. It's a easy thing to do. Some still fear the thought. Truthfully I use to be one of them. Trouble dont last always, is one of the things my Mother would always say to me. I still hear her voice so sound and clear.

In the thick of things life can truly test you, and reveal who you really are, and what you're made of. Love doesn't always conquer all. A wound in time can heal, but the healing process can take a lifetime. In that time your wounds become seasoned, and the more seasoned the wounds become, the more jade, time has allowed to set in.

Never sacrifice yourself for another. Like the saying goes never make someone YOUR priority, when YOU'RE only an option. It always leads back to a swift kick in the *ss. Plain and simple and the rules are never new. Pay close attention to the things that 'aren't' being said. No two people get to love at the same time, and love is never equal. Someone is always benefiting more than the other. Love takes application, and it's a day to day process. Few ever really totally understand the bigger picture. Divorce or breakups come along because you like to use words like 'Irreconcilable Differences', so much for till death do us part. Where has the commitment gone? Arguments are healthy, that's where the battle begins in 'struggle'. It takes MUCH work to diligently press forward.

Taking the easy road, nothing is learned, no challenges achieved to strive to push hard to get understanding, to things that arent easily understood. Do you fault yourself when someone has grown disenchanted with your love. The mature question is to seek truth no matter what. Maybe they never loved you, but because of words like 'convenience' or 'easy' they settled into a way of life. Though never fair for the person in love, who is walking wounded daily, trying to be what the other person needs them to be. Awful truth, is you will never meet their needs, Secretly most people know this, yet they wear those rose colored glasses to see what they want to see.

Friends will never fully get it, yet all have walked a wicked walk out on faith at some point. Trust a try...it's all worth the wounds and the battles fought, its what living life in the moment is all about, it keeps you on course to a better self. Usually we find someone who is lacking things and character, we cultivate that person to a new completion and lifestyle, when the growth process is achieved, someone else will benefit from the fruits of your labor. The love of your life will leave you, and their NEXT one benefits. Hmmm yeah where is the fairness, well who said that it was fair.

I say go on and cry, it's your right, for a time it will make you feel better, but don't ever let it consume the shell of you. Wounds are meant to heal. Life will always have struggle and battles, new challenges, new desires, and eventually the heart will mend, and it will pump and thrust for the 'next' love and you will take another chance to begin again, and you'll step out on faith once again, the difference this time around you'll be smarter and wiser, well most of you. For those walking wounded in the battle of love and life. Stop beating yourself up, you did nothing wrong, but fell in love with someone who didn't love you, or as much, nor appreciate you. Sad thing is the other person has no idea of their loss, because they are still riding their gain....FOR NOW!!

What are you doing with your life?

I'm Just Saying..

Get over it America, Dave Letterman cheated on his then girlfriend, and now wifey. It happened, move on and get your panties out of a bunch. We're always the first to cast a stone, like the glass house that you live is freaking perfect. SNAP OUT OF IT!!

Comedian Chris Rock's documentary 'Good Hair' opens tomorrow, why is a documentary playing in a movie theatre I DONT KNOW, but let's hope it's MUCH better that his last foray into film 'I Think I Love My Wife', and come to think of it, I didn't care for his 'Everybody Hates Chris' TV sitcom.

Another COON Award goes to another trainwreck on the BET network, this time it's 'MONIQUE's late night talk show. A WHACK job, with F listers as guest. Let's get it together people.

Superstar musician PRINCE is constantly using a cane this days, the man is only 51. Sometimes you wonder about the universe, when PRINCE performns he dances, sings,plays every instrument and runs all over the stage, doesn't seem fair that he would have hip ailments, his concerts will never be the same. If he were a balladeer, it wouldnt matter as much. Doctors suggest that he have hip replacement surgery. Being a Jehovah's Witness, I don't know how their rules are for surgery.

Director Guy Ritchie said he's still in love with ex-wife Madonna, he said that she would out perform any tweny year old, because she's a hard worker, and he also said that she is retarded, of course all of his comments seem to be terms of endearments. Can you imagine what living with the Material Girl was like?

Two Judges who think that they are GOD, Nancy Grace and Gloria Allred, both seem to be lacking sex appeal and for that matter curb appeal, so needless to say, it makes sense why they are so bitter.

Congrats again goes out to Pop Legend Barbara Streisand for scoring a knockout punch to former labelmate Mariah Carey. Don't you just love a good catfight between record labels, everyone thought that Mimi's "Memoirs" would enter at #1, never in their wildest dreams did they think that their competition would come from a sixy something year old ICON, goes to show you NEVER underestimate the powers of a true DIVA and business woman. Columbia records basically said take that Mariah, that'll teach you.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

Command Performance

Such a tender moment honoring a true legend. This subtle performance moved me to tears. It's a moment in time that I'll always treasure. John Mayer you were truly in your zone during this performance. I'm humbled by your artistry.

I'm Just Saying...

If Beyonce' Knowles can have a alto ego, I guess so can Jennifer J.Lo Lopez, who is about to return to the music scene with a new CD produced by hitmaker Pharrell entitled 'Lola'. May the baddest chick in the game win, I got my money on Knowles. I doubt if anyone will seriously consider Lopez as a relelevant contender. Maybe the question should be is who is a better lay Knowles or Lopez, HANDS down I'd say Lopez!!!

It's official Mariah Carey's 'Memoirs' CD is a major disappointment. She comes in on the Billboard magazine music charts at #3 behind Pop Legend Barbara Streisand who debuts at #1 while the punk rock group Paramore debuts at #2. Mariah's music maybe tanking thats the bad news, good news is she's officially carrying a little Cannon.

Supermodel Heidi Klum is officially changing her last name to her married name, which is Smith.....husband Seal must be putting it down right!!!

Gossip Girl is tanking in the ratings, so they sent in Hilary Duff to the rescue...IT DIDNT WORK!! CW.....do you remember The Game television show....xxxxactly your dumb *ss network canceled it. Big mistake.

OMG, rapper Shyne didn't get released yesterday as plannned. Hmmm does POOFY have that MUCH clout? Stay tuned for more details.

Grand dame Elizabeth Taylor is scheduled for heart surgery. In her prime, she was the most beautiful woman on earth. At 77 she's frail, but still fighting the good fight. Get well soon.

Tyler Perry blogged about being molested by men and women as a youth. Now it all makes sense where his Madea character comes from, well kinda.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Sayin...

Legendary Pop Superstar Whitney Houston supposedly is in deep negotiations to join ABC's hit show Desperate Housewives. I'm not sure how this will play out, last time the producers invited black folks into the Westia Lane Cul De Sac, they had them hiding in the basement and all kind of other foolishness, but one things for sure, one white woman did get to taste some Mandingo. Let's see what they have in store for Whitney.

Dave Letterman apologized to his wifey for getting it in 'literally' with one of his staff members. I have mad respect for ole boy. He was like before this damn tabloids try to rip me to shreds, I'll speak on it first and defuse EVERYTHING!! Guess it's not Dave's first time at the rodeo. Handle your business man.

ESPN magazine has just gotten a lot MORE interesting. Some sports superstars bare it all, one of the baddest chicks in the game tennis superstar Serena Williams, is on one of the covers. Talk about having no cream in my coffee....somebody please pour me a cup of Serena...very nice.

Shame on ALL the gossip media for airing Kandi Buress ex- fiance's last words, and the details. The man is dead, he leaves children, who has to cope with his loss, and to be truthful, was he really in entertainment. Folks at some point you have to have a concsious and say ENOUGH!! R.I.P.

So I was thinking if Rihanna, Britney Spears, Lady GAG, Pussycat Dolls, Heidi Montag and Robin Thicke were in concert and say their sound man and dancers all miss their planes...could the show go on? You just got to love the non talent lip sync super wonders of the music world. Now say if the same thing were to happen to Christina Aguilera, Beyonce' Knowles, Rahsaan Patterson, Celine Dion, Jazmine Sullivan or Carrie Underwood. You would still have a GREAT show..that's the difference when you've got TALENT!!! Pay attention world.

Toni Braxton pay your bills boo. According to City National Bank, Braxton owes $657,567.54 and interest that's over $44K. How many of you remember her 'Secrets' CD? That was a banger, then Ms. Braxton started to fall off, she sued her star maker producers L.A. Reid and Babyface, then she took her show to Vegas:( now this. C'mon Toni, lets get our focus back. Maybe your upcoming CD will sell tons, and you can pay what you owe. We all owe somebody, lawd knows I do.

Bathroom cruiser, oops I meant to say crooner George Michael and his lover Kenny Goss are STILL together, even after all Michael's slip ups. Guess is true what they say, behind a every strong man, there's a stronger wo(man).

White boys are NOT always so privileged child molester Roman Polanski has to stay locked up. As of this morning, Switzerland officials denied a request to release Roman Polanski from prison. FINALLY....no good should come to you. Children have it hard enough....no pun intended.

One bad boy can't get released from prison, while another baby boy gets released. Rapper Shyne is a free man today, and I can say is POOFY....watch your back..and Shyne watch your front. I'M JUST SAYING....POOFY you are dirty, and you know what you did to Shyne was wrong. whatcha you gonna do now? He's FREE!!

MTV can you get back to music videos. Shows like the HILLS, so intelligently written and scripted. Watching paint dry would be far more interesting and educational.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

I'm Just Saying...

Beautiful actress Nia Long talks about her role in the movie for the latest cover of ESSENCE magazine. Nia is one of our favorite actresses, who didn't fall in love with her in 'Love Jones' and 'Boyz N The Hood' and Alfie just to name a few. Long has been a working actress in HOLLYWOOD for over twenty years. BRAVO Nia, Hollywood isn't a easy street to live on.

The sea biscuit media whore Beyonce' Knowles will have a sit down with Momma 'O', with the huge ratings of the Whitney Houston and 'Jay-Z' interviews. I knew it would only be a matter of time, before the jealous 'look at me, see me, look at me' girl would want to have her day, though she has no new product on the market to promote. I don't get it, supposedly she's going to put her father on blast for cheating with him jump offs and she will also tell why she and Kelly aren't that close anymore. Hmmm probably because Kelly and Michelle finally WOKE the phuck up!!Wonder if anyone well be humming the song Single Ladies in fifty years, uh oh .. more like OH NO!!

Madonna appeared on SNL this weekend in a spoof with Lady GAG ME WITH A SPOON!! Maddy is another attention whore. It makes more sense that she's clamoring to stay relevant and in the spotlight. Being a 51 year old singer in the entertainment world is like being a dinosaur. In my opinion it cheapens her brand to ever acknowledge a gutter lacking talent person like GAG!!

So it's been a week and Laker Basketball star Lamar Odom is still married to the Kardarshian chick. And they said it wouldnt last....guess they were wrong!! Happy Anniversary.

Can someone please step in and rescue Lindsay Lohan, since her cougar mom doesn't seem to care. Yesterday Lohan was this adorable red head, today she's a train wreck certain for a dead end collision. Haven't you seen this story before? We all know how it ends. HELP HER SOMEBODY!!

The Today Show is supposedly a true journalism show with status, yet today Kate Gosselin is a featured guest to talk about what? XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXactly. I stopped caring about her, well wait a minute I NEVER CARED, that's just it. NO ONE DOES!! C'mon Today producers GET IT TOGETHER!!

Our hearts go out to Kandi Buress and family. It is a hard knock life.

Kanye West was quiet this weekend, guess no Hennessy for him. Good job...Mr. West get well soon.

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..

No Apologies/TGIF

It's a Happy Fall Friday....

For those of you who might remember Mrs. Johnson, I had the pleasure of spending Wednesday afternoon with her. She's hanging in there, and ever so full of wisdom, looking at the world from the eyes of the terminally ill, always makes me get off the pity party bandwagon. I feel that my wisdom is executed by leaps and bounds when I spend time with Mrs. Johnson. She doesn't have any anger nor bitterness, she's so at peace, and unapologetic for her life. The highs, lows, triumphs and despair. When I saw her this week, I didn't share the story of my recent loss, I wanted to give her my full attention and I wanted our time to be special, as it always is. when I'm with her.

We talked about friendships, we talked about God, we talked about politics, tolerance and relationships. She has a daughter that looks at me crazy every time she sees me, but I know what that's about, guilt is a strange bedfellow, nonetheless I even understand why, besides the most obvious reason. Gloom for the terminally ill, can be uplifting and invigorating, because sometimes its a hell 'why not' stance? What is this going to harm that hasn't been harmed already. Whenever I visit with her, I bring fun things like gag gifts, ice cream, candy, sometimes liquor:) though she never touches it, maybe it's secretly for her daughter. We always play bridge, which she introduced me to, and we always listen to vocal standards and swing. When it was time to leave, I hugged her just a little bit longer for my own personal reasons. I think we both appreciated the tenderness of the moment.

Driving home I couldn't help but to think about the conversations that we covered. We talked about a lifelong friendship that she had, and how life happened and their falling out. She shared with me about true forgiveness, and I shared her sentiment. To share your good, bad and dirty with close personal friends, where you feel that you can be yourself, and not apologize for who and what you are, is the reason that you have friendships. For a person to know the complete you and not judge you for it, that's the awesome feeling of worth and gratitude. Pity and envy should never be a part of friendship, but as we all know, and most have experienced, some have ulterior motives.

In friendships where you've crossed a boundary, and you can't see eye to eye, when a mistake is made, or several mistakes are made, and sometimes it can be the same mistake. Having the heart in the right place, I feel gets you a pass, for dialogue and conversation. It's quite a different beast to be apologetic and to seek sincere forgiveness, and for all appearance sake, it seems to be water under the bridge, yet actions fully contradict the one, who supposedly has wholeheartedly forgiven you. I touched on this before about the person who accepts the apology as being the bigger person, because to forgive, is to let go.

Some would argue that you can forgive, but not forgot. I don't agree, holding on brings resentment. At that point we must access the friendship and situation, and investigate in your soul searching, if the friendship is worth trying to mend. I think it takes much work to invest time in a friendship, to put quality and effort there, only for the other person to fully have no intentions of moving on. A disservice is done, and in my opinion no one wins, both parties lose.

In a situation where the end seems near, we waste far too much time on what's NOT important, as oppose to what is, like how we truly feel about one another, in our naked unguarded vulnerabilities. Live life in the present, take it all in, and when you reflect back on the impacts and foundations. Forgive yourself, and perhaps other's who may have wronged you, and if you can't get to that point, come away realizing that maybe it just might be okay not to forgive, or that you wont be forgiven by someone....and that's okay too.

What are you doing with your life?

Command Performance

OMG it gets not better than this performance. It's rare to see see four heavy hitters on one stage. Prince, Stevie Wonder, Yolanda Adams, all came out to salute the one and only Chaka Khan on her classic 'I'm Every Woman' song. It's nice to see such love between these four performers. This is what award shows and live performances use to be in the old days, all true talent and showmanship on stage. Every time I watch this performance I get chills. Sit back and watch true legends, show you how it's done....SIMPLY AMAZING!!! I'm glad that I got to witness this first hand in my lifetime. BRAVO!!

I'm Just Saying...

Ebony magazine the African American staple is up for sale, Mr. Larry Johnson the founder, must be turning over in his grave. I guess everyone is feeling the recession crunch. Let's pray and hope that whoever buys it, will keep the same focus and not go COON on us.

American's First Lady Michelle O'Bama is coming to Sesame Street, she will plug healthy eating and gardening.
The First Lady will help kick off the 40th year of "Sesame Street"
with an appearance on the Nov. 10 season premiere, PBS announced Tuesday.
Michelle Obama will bring with her a message touting the importance of planting gardens and healthy eating. Hey Kermit NO flirting, she's got a man:)

Attention whore Rihanna is rocking another yet WRONG hair don't, and every time I see it I can't help but thinking, geez isnt that the r&b singer Stacy Lattisaw:( xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxactly. Ri Ri back to the drawing board ma, because it's NOT a good look on you.

Word on the street is that Kate Hudson and Alex Rodriguez have been doing the 'nasty' so much and so often....she's supposedly preggers. I aint mad at Alex, Kate seems like she'd be good in bed, after all her mother is the ever sexy Goldie Hawn. Congrats.

Steven Spielberg still has a soft spot for Drew Barrymore. He showed up to the premiere of her directorial debut movie, Whip It, last night!
E.T. phoned home...it's good to know that some true relationships are in place

Pop singer Mariah Carey's new 'Memiors' CD is garnering lackluster reviews and it's not the hot seller that she expected it to be. Well when all else fails, she has Nick Cannon, who can make it do what it do, get the work 'in' Nick!!

Remember to every rumor, there's a certain bit of truth to it.

Hey Oprah, Dave Letterman, Wendy Williams and Ellen..