Abuse/TGIF

Here we are again, it's another Friday, and if you're in Kali, we're witnessing homes blazing and unusually hot temperatures. Global warming is wreaking it's ugly head. Collectively can we all come together, to do the right thing? That's the million dollar question. It's Friday nonetheless, so let's get to it.

When something is on my heart I speak on it, often times it's not from a personal experience, but it could be events that I've witnessed. Once I put it out there, it's up for grabs. I watched Chris Brown on Larry King, and I saw Whitney Houston on Good Morning America this week. Both train wrecks in their own way. Abuse is something that should not ever be taken lightly. It speaks to a weak mind. Whenever someone feels the need to beat and belittle you it generally means that someone has abused them, or it can be that you possess a quality that they are lacking.

Abuse comes in all shapes and sizes. You have the closeted person, who is abused within their home, that type of person, will always try to defend their abuser. A man will beat his wife on one hand, then turnaround and expect sexual favors, its nothing new. Some address their demons by using drugs, as escapism. That's just another level of abuse, that's abuse to self. Some are down right embarrased about their situation. Verbal and Mental abuse is just as bad, and can be more brutal, than a fist at times, remember words are powerful.

I think God gives blessings, when parents have children it's their duty to instill qualities in their children, they're also there to protect and guide, NOT ever neglect. A woman should never put her husband/man before her/their child. Some would quote it differently according to what version you read. Children do not ask to be brought into this world. To abuse means that you want to control the situation, could it be that the abuser was abused? More times than not, it starts there. Ironically the person in the most pain, is the last one who will seek help. They are afraid to tap into their pain. Abuser's are cowards, plain and simple.

Rihanna and Chris Brown, Ike and Tina, Pamela Anderson and Tommie Lee, their abuse is NO different and no greater than average every day human beings. What beauty can be found in someone hiding a black eye behind sunglasses. If you know anyone who is in a situation where you know abuse is being done, you must stand up and take a stand. Too many times, everyone wants to look the other way, well looking the other way, could result in a death, from a situation gone too far. Encourage counseling, but more importantly help them to escape, generations of abuse can be corrected, the chain could stop with you. First you must want better, secondly you have to believe that you can do better, and thirdly you must believe that you deserve better.

I don't proclaim to have all the answers but I do know when I see injustice in the eyes of a child, or someone's spirit broken, by years of being bullied. We have tools, and strength comes in numbers. So for the little voice who might not know how to speak out, I champion for you, and maybe someone else out there will champion with me. Truth be told, you don't have to look very far, I'm sure some of what I'm speaking on is probably in your family, friendships, or in the work place.

What are you doing with your life?